Individual shadow work sessions
I often meet people when they’re facing obstacles, stuck in old patterns and stories, or when they’re at a crossroads in their life, unsure of which direction to take.
Many of my clients are already on a journey of self-discovery when they contact me and are looking to go deeper. I hear them share things like, “I’m tired of going back over my story again and again”, "I'm sick of just talking, I need more", and “I am just going round in circles and not moving forward.”
Real, lasting transformation requires more than just getting
our story straight. It asks that we become an active participant
in the continual unfolding of our story...
There is a vast well of untapped wisdom, inspiration and creativity inside each of us. We just have to ask the right questions and learn how to listen to the wisdom that comes back from the body and what that is telling us.
I offer experiential psychotherapeutic process for personal
development and the exploration and transformation of
inner conflict and difficulty.
Although dialog is essential in compassionate inquiry and exploration, we don't just talk: In our work together you will experience aspects of yourself and your limiting patterns through embodiment of these aspects of yourself in facilitated shadow work and parts work process. In this way you will enter into relationship with the aspects of yourself in a different way, from within, and step into dialogue with yourself at a deeper level than ordinary ego consciousness. It is through embodying and representing the nature of these inner relationships that you will gain that different perspective and find what you need for resolution and healing.
In our work together we explore and identify what you are wanting to be different within you, working with and shifting those old patterns and ways of being.
A typical session is three to five hours in length.
So how can you help me?
I will help you move away from the unconscious patterns that drive your behaviours, and to become an active participant in the
continual unfolding of your story.
We become an active participant in the unfolding of our lives by bringing greater awareness into our relationships and the present moment of our lived experience. We increase awareness in our lives by first understanding how and why we are how we are. We do this through deep compassionate inquiry and in working with the unconscious through shadow work and parts work.
The unconscious is that mysterious realm where much is hidden from us, yet which continually spills out into our world. The problem with the unconscious is that it is unconscious and because of this we can't approach it directly, but we can track, engage and interpret its manifestations in our behavioural patterns, our thoughts and the pathology that manifests in our bodies. Each of these offers an avenue into a psyche that is actively seeking healing. It is within this pathology that we find the trailheads for our work together.
I use a sensitive and deep shadow work framework to guide you safely through your session, creating a powerful and experiential personal process of exploration and emotional healing. Each session is structured around your desired outcome and at every step of the work you are completely in control of what happens or does not happen. This allows you to move effectively to the core of the issue in safety and at your own pace.
Carl Jung’s theory of the Shadow
An understanding of Carl Jung’s theory of the Shadow is core to all my work. The Shadow Self (the unconscious parts of our personality) is often the unconscious driver behind the dissatisfaction, imbalance, disconnection or lack of fulfilment within ourselves and our relationships. The longer length of a typical session allows a strong container to build within which these hidden parts and repressed emotions can be met in shame free acceptance, with a sense of safety and a sensitive holding. Making themselves known, these energies can be explored and re-integrated into our lives in an embodied and authentic way, releasing their wisdom and the associated energy that was required to keep them hidden.
The work invites you to turn towards and explore those parts of your personality that you might struggle to be with, or find it hard to understand or accept – those aspects of yourself which may bring shame or confusion, or those aspects you fear may emotionally overwhelm or harm you or those around you. We all have parts like this and they can be the source of much pain and suffering. Furthermore, the more we try to ignore or hide these sides of ourselves the greater their capacity to disrupt our lives in uncontrolled ways.
These parts of us in shadow have considerable influence over us and as they are brought more into our awareness we gain greater control over our emotions and feelings, and our patterns of thought, speech, and behaviour. This allows us to move towards a place of response rather than reaction in our everyday life and makes it much easier to leave behind self limiting patterns, replacing them with authentic ways of being which represent who we really are and who we want to be.
Transformational Emotional Process Work
Through our work together you can explore and get to know these sides of yourself and give space and voice to all the bodily experiences, feelings, thoughts and beliefs - the welcome and the not so welcome. It is through this creative exploration that emotions can be expressed and insight comes, and with that, the potential for transformation and healing.
Individual sessions last between 3 and 5 hours. The first session is usually a long session of five hours (or three consecutive two hour sessions). The long length of the initial session is an important component of our work together, allowing a level of safety to emerge for you within which you are able to settle into a deep exploration of the issue that you are bringing. It is within the safety that develops over the five hour process that what needs to come out can emerge, allowing us to work at depth and facilitate the inner shifts that you are looking for. Subsequent sessions can be tailored in duration and frequency to meet your requirements.
“No one saves us but ourselves.
No one can and no one may.
We ourselves must walk the path.”
— Gautama Buddha
What people are saying...
"Throughout the session I felt a very good sense of safety, like I could be free in that holding. Ali midwifed an excellent process, with much depth and tender enquiry and I felt moved by that. I am cogitating and settling into the depth of what was generously facilitated for me. I really think it was a beautiful piece of work, gratitude and celebration all round. I got clearer in bringing home an exquisite part of myself.
The session was profoundly useful and I am full of gratitude. There's so much deeper gold in what we uncovered. I feel I am relating differently… and am letting that come into integration. It was a deep session."
What is Depth Psychology?
In this excellent short film, Dr James Hollis explores Depth Psychology and what makes this approach different from other approaches.
Why work with your shadow aspects?
To identify and resolve the unconscious drivers behind those unhelpful thought patterns, beliefs and behaviours
To work with and bring healing to your addictions, compulsions or obsessive behaviours, thoughts or feelings
To identify, clarify and work with your personal needs and boundaries
To gain a greater ease in relationship, both outer and inner
To become less triggered by other peoples behaviour and external events, moving towards a place of response rather than reaction in your interpersonal relationships
To move into a space of self-regulation, ease and safety
To grow a greater inner trust and source of inner support. A clearer perception of who you are and a movement towards authenticity, integrity
To make peace with traumatic patterns and assist in your journey to recovery from childhood trauma
To unblock limitations to progress and growth in your life, and your emotional, spiritual and physical development
To meet and integrate your healthy anger, embodying this energy to create transformation in your inner and outer relationships.
To explore your grief to bring expression and flow to your emotional body
To become more clear and present
To re-integrate of all that latent potential: all those positive qualities, repressed for whatever reason, that can truly serve your adult Self and empower you to go where you want to go